𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐆𝐨𝐝, 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐋𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐂𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐘𝐨𝐮

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers…” — Corinthians 6:14

Loneliness can make unhealthy relationships look appealing but desperation can often blind one’s discernment.

Scripture warns against being in unequally yoked relationships which speaks about alignment. Just because someone is cute or available does not mean they are assigned or aligned to you.

In Genesis 24, Isaac was Abraham’s legacy, the heir of God’s covenant promise that all nations would be blessed though Him. When Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for Isaac, he prayed specifically for God’s guidance. Rebekah’s kindness, hospitality, and willingness revealed her character —that she was God’s choice for Isaac.

This shows the necessity of prioritising prayer in choosing a partner, seeking God’s direction in the process, and choosing character over appearance.

When choosing a partner, first pray like Abraham’s servant —“Lord, God, make me successful, and show your lovingkindness (favor and faithfulness in the choice of a spouse)”

But don’t just stop there..examine and get to know them to discover if they are indeed God’s choice —““Meanwhile, the man stood gazing at Rebekah in [reverent] silence, [waiting] to know if the Lord had made his trip successful or not.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭24‬:‭21‬ ‭AMP‬‬

𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐞:

a bad character or bad habits

emotional instability e.g, anger issues, abusive behaviour

lack of integrity

spiritual apathy or incompatibility

𝐁𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐚𝐬𝐤:

Do we share the same core values?

Do we respect one another?

Are we committed to growing spiritually, emotionally, financially etc.,?

Is this relationship healthy or merely convenient?

Rebekah, though she was beautiful, was not chosen merely by appearance, but by discernment and evidence of godly character.

…Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out…” — Genesis 24:15

𝐊𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐧𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐭:

Being alone temporarily is better than feeling trapped in the long-term. If you trust that God has the best for you, you don’t need a revolving door of relationships to find the right one. He will reveal her/him to you at the right time.